This is so interesting. I love reading articles like this because I come from the opposite side: I've been a homeschooling SAHM for almost 16 years. Its been totally worth it on the parenting side, but on the financial side, it's been extremely difficult, especially as the cost if living continues to rise. It seems single-income families are becoming a relic of the past. It would have made a huge difference in the lives of my children and in my relationship with my husband if I had started with advice and guidance on how to also contribute financially in a way that created a balanced and healthy long-term solution, something I'm now working towards.
Thanks so much for these insights. Wish I’d known them (and believed them) 45 years ago, now at age 70 I regret how much of my life focused on career success at the expense of family and relationships. Took a long time to understand I would not automatically recreate the train wreck of my parents’ marriage when I myself married.
You probably would have created your parents' miserable marriage. That is what the vast, vast majority of people do, and women suffer for believing this nonsense.
It's better that you're 70 and have the peace of mind that you lived your life well, rather than writing that you were 70 and divorced, broke, and angry that you wasted your life with an ungrateful man and children. That's probably what would have happened.
I have been happily married for 40 years. Made an effort not to be like my mother and did not marry a nasty drunk. Still regret being a workaholic, but am happily devoting my time and energy now to my home and husband.
Fine then everything worked out for you, you made good decisions and you worked so now you can have a comfortable life in retirement.
What, not working and being dependent on a male would have been better? Like he wouldn’t have turned out just like your drunk father if that’s what you did?
The feminist movement made your successful life possible, and now you’re reaping the benefits. Don’t you see that? What’s there to complain about?
Thank you. I am happily aware of the opportunities the feminist movement afforded me. Thanks in part to Suzanne’s points, I am also aware of the nuanced thinking the feminist movement did not encourage; namely, how to better balance a career with love, marriage, and a family.
Thank you Suzanne for your hard work and dedication re-educating us on the importance of being a woman and a mother. I was born in the early 70s. Although my mother said she didn’t drink the feminist Koolaid, she and my father divorced when I was 6. It didn’t help that my mother’s parents were divorced when she (the second youngest of 6) got divorced when she was 13. My dad was devastates but he didn’t put up a fight. They both found new partners that brought nothing but chaos and turmoil into my life. I wasn’t taught to value being a girl, a woman, marriage or motherhood. Thank you for the work you do! I share your podcasts with my daughter and my sons.
I wish I knew then what I know now- being a woman is honorable and worth protecting. Only that protection must come from within myself through self respect, not sacrificing my body to secure “love”, but rather wait until he sacrifices himself to provide and protect. I am worth the wait!
Now the state of finding a good mate for my children is even harder than ever as so many of us have been traumatized by our generational failed marriages and indoctrinated by “experts”. Between your work and Jillian Turecki’s work I have learned so much about myself and the Truth. I hope my kids will heed your wisdom!
"The precise moment in history when the relationship between the sexes took a nosedive is when women began to have sex like a man—casually, with no strings attached—under the guise that women are no different from men and are thus just as capable of having uncommitted sex."
While the male animal is more able to get away with "no strings attached sex", it is no more natural for men than it is for women. That is, where "no strings attached sex" brings emptiness, monogamy brings happiness to both men and women.
Yes, the state of the relationship between the sexes when female could be legally married off at 10, never had orgasms in their lives ever, were legally beaten by their husbands, had no access to education or financial power, and had no legal recourse when they were thrown out of the house--it was MUCH better.
India regularly makes world headlines for the most disgusting, depraved rape cases on the planet, along with millions of unborn girls who have disappeared due to sex-selective abortions.
Clean up your own mess and talk to the males in your country. They're a fucking disgrace. Feminism isn't the problem there, dear.
This is so interesting. I love reading articles like this because I come from the opposite side: I've been a homeschooling SAHM for almost 16 years. Its been totally worth it on the parenting side, but on the financial side, it's been extremely difficult, especially as the cost if living continues to rise. It seems single-income families are becoming a relic of the past. It would have made a huge difference in the lives of my children and in my relationship with my husband if I had started with advice and guidance on how to also contribute financially in a way that created a balanced and healthy long-term solution, something I'm now working towards.
Thanks so much for these insights. Wish I’d known them (and believed them) 45 years ago, now at age 70 I regret how much of my life focused on career success at the expense of family and relationships. Took a long time to understand I would not automatically recreate the train wreck of my parents’ marriage when I myself married.
You probably would have created your parents' miserable marriage. That is what the vast, vast majority of people do, and women suffer for believing this nonsense.
It's better that you're 70 and have the peace of mind that you lived your life well, rather than writing that you were 70 and divorced, broke, and angry that you wasted your life with an ungrateful man and children. That's probably what would have happened.
I have been happily married for 40 years. Made an effort not to be like my mother and did not marry a nasty drunk. Still regret being a workaholic, but am happily devoting my time and energy now to my home and husband.
Fine then everything worked out for you, you made good decisions and you worked so now you can have a comfortable life in retirement.
What, not working and being dependent on a male would have been better? Like he wouldn’t have turned out just like your drunk father if that’s what you did?
The feminist movement made your successful life possible, and now you’re reaping the benefits. Don’t you see that? What’s there to complain about?
Thank you. I am happily aware of the opportunities the feminist movement afforded me. Thanks in part to Suzanne’s points, I am also aware of the nuanced thinking the feminist movement did not encourage; namely, how to better balance a career with love, marriage, and a family.
Thank you Suzanne for your hard work and dedication re-educating us on the importance of being a woman and a mother. I was born in the early 70s. Although my mother said she didn’t drink the feminist Koolaid, she and my father divorced when I was 6. It didn’t help that my mother’s parents were divorced when she (the second youngest of 6) got divorced when she was 13. My dad was devastates but he didn’t put up a fight. They both found new partners that brought nothing but chaos and turmoil into my life. I wasn’t taught to value being a girl, a woman, marriage or motherhood. Thank you for the work you do! I share your podcasts with my daughter and my sons.
I wish I knew then what I know now- being a woman is honorable and worth protecting. Only that protection must come from within myself through self respect, not sacrificing my body to secure “love”, but rather wait until he sacrifices himself to provide and protect. I am worth the wait!
Now the state of finding a good mate for my children is even harder than ever as so many of us have been traumatized by our generational failed marriages and indoctrinated by “experts”. Between your work and Jillian Turecki’s work I have learned so much about myself and the Truth. I hope my kids will heed your wisdom!
Yes, your reply is a fair description of Islamic and similar cultures, but how does it relate to the comment?
If having a career and having your own money wasn't so great, you wouldn't be working so hard at it, Suzanne.
The women who claim to be against this don't even follow their own values. So why should anybody else take you seriously?
Relying on men, who are fickle, is terrible. That's why you don't even do it. Just stop with the nonsense.
"The precise moment in history when the relationship between the sexes took a nosedive is when women began to have sex like a man—casually, with no strings attached—under the guise that women are no different from men and are thus just as capable of having uncommitted sex."
While the male animal is more able to get away with "no strings attached sex", it is no more natural for men than it is for women. That is, where "no strings attached sex" brings emptiness, monogamy brings happiness to both men and women.
Yes, the state of the relationship between the sexes when female could be legally married off at 10, never had orgasms in their lives ever, were legally beaten by their husbands, had no access to education or financial power, and had no legal recourse when they were thrown out of the house--it was MUCH better.
LOL
India regularly makes world headlines for the most disgusting, depraved rape cases on the planet, along with millions of unborn girls who have disappeared due to sex-selective abortions.
Clean up your own mess and talk to the males in your country. They're a fucking disgrace. Feminism isn't the problem there, dear.